She Might Still Be Married (in Her Mind)Obviously, if she is regaling you with tales of her ex, she's not over him or ready for you. But watch for subtler signs. For instance, "If you forget to call once, and she gets really suspicious and jumps to the conclusion that you were with someone else, this might be a red flag that she hasn't worked through issues having to do with an ex," says Emily Harrell, a licensed psychotherapist with the Berman Center, in Chicago. Another telling clue: pictures of the two of them in her home.
You Could Be a Backup for TV & TakeoutSome divorced women may string you along because a night with you is better than the alternative: an order of sesame chicken and Late Night With Conan O'Brien. "These are what I call I-don't-care daters," says Debbie Nigro, a founder of FirstWivesWorld.com, an online community for divorced women. If you don't get anywhere within four or five dates, it's time to move on. "She'd rather be with you than doing nothing," says Nigro, "but she's not saying what she's feeling, which is nothing."
Hotel Trysts Aren't Just for Ladies of the NightIf she suggests heading to the local motel after a few dates, don't be too shocked by what appears to be a forward gesture. "Hotels aren't just for affairs. It's a good, neutral space, especially when you have kids at home," says Nigro, who says to be cautious with your heart if all she wants to do is sleep with you and she doesn't introduce you to anyone in her life besides the hotel concierge and the bartender. But if you're happy with a sack-centered relationship, by all means, enjoy it.
Her Past May Weigh Heavily on Her HeartAccording to a study from the University of Texas at Austin, divorced women are 60 percent more likely to develop heart disease than women who have never divorced. Unfortunately, proposing to her won't help. That sad statistic seems to hold true even after remarriage. Take care of your new amour by encouraging her to take care of herself, and make sure you both have health insurance.
You Could Be a Backup for TV & TakeoutSome divorced women may string you along because a night with you is better than the alternative: an order of sesame chicken and Late Night With Conan O'Brien. "These are what I call I-don't-care daters," says Debbie Nigro, a founder of FirstWivesWorld.com, an online community for divorced women. If you don't get anywhere within four or five dates, it's time to move on. "She'd rather be with you than doing nothing," says Nigro, "but she's not saying what she's feeling, which is nothing."
Hotel Trysts Aren't Just for Ladies of the NightIf she suggests heading to the local motel after a few dates, don't be too shocked by what appears to be a forward gesture. "Hotels aren't just for affairs. It's a good, neutral space, especially when you have kids at home," says Nigro, who says to be cautious with your heart if all she wants to do is sleep with you and she doesn't introduce you to anyone in her life besides the hotel concierge and the bartender. But if you're happy with a sack-centered relationship, by all means, enjoy it.
Her Past May Weigh Heavily on Her HeartAccording to a study from the University of Texas at Austin, divorced women are 60 percent more likely to develop heart disease than women who have never divorced. Unfortunately, proposing to her won't help. That sad statistic seems to hold true even after remarriage. Take care of your new amour by encouraging her to take care of herself, and make sure you both have health insurance.
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