Online Dating - The Profile

Many men think that the profile is the most important part of online dating. I actually could not disagree more. In many regards, it is one of the least important items and serves merely as a negative selection tool for the women. In my opinion, the profile actually tells the women why they are not interested in you, not why they are! The most important initial aspect of your profile is the picture.

When you meet a person in real life, that is outside the internet, you see a person in three dimensions. The personality, the mannerisms, and the looks. On the internet, however, these three dimensions are brought down to one. Therefore the picture becomes the gateway to the meeting. And of course, in the picture itself we have taken a 3 dimensional object and represented it in 2 dimensions, often in a misleading way.

The process she goes through is not unlike yours, but after she looks at your picture she will then try to understand your income potential. Following this, she will look at what your attitudes about family are. If, for example, she wants more children, she will try to understand your position on this important aspect. If you do not meet her criteria for this metric, she will move on.

Although the picture was the most important aspect to get you noticed, it only gets you in the door and often it is a vertical coffin. Many times men will ignore all kinds of problems in the woman's profile or in actual behavior if they think the woman is sexy or very attractive. Women have known this since time began and can exploit this to their advantage. That is why men new to marriage often complain that the sex went out the window after the wedding day. Remember, men are motivated by what they see. After the initial decision about you, however, women are motivated by what they hear.

So, the process goes thusly, she will look at your picture and decide if it is repulsive or your body habitus is outside what she wants, then she will look at your income or income potential. Finally, she will look at whatever qualities are important to her. This will proceed in her mind until she makes a go/no go decision. Clearly your work is set out for you and you must sort and select to pick the right person.

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