I'm not recommending that anyone step too far beyond their boundaries but for those who dare to venture out a bit I say, 'there's gold in them there hills! And that gold requires that you show up for your date with a little sizzle in your step. Yes, show up with the snap, the crackle, and the hissss.
Here's some hot tips to help you to first relax and then to create some sizzle on your first date.
1) Get Excited: Before you even meet up with your date get excited in anticipation of this great event. Visualize how great you and your date will look together as well as every aspect of your date from her sensuous attire to the scent of his sexy cologne.
And smile, smile, smile. It's a part of your attire that you should never leave home without. There's something absolutely sexy about a happy, smiling date and you'll also be sending off some sizzling happy vibes. Setting the stage for a fun time starts happening way before the two of you ever even meet.
2) Dress to Impress: Yes, dress for the sizzling success of your date. As a first dater, give your date a taste of how refreshingly sizzling you can be. You want your look to show that you're bright, attractive, and downright sizzling!
There are two types of attire you want to avoid wearing on a date whenever possible:
I) Work clothes. Take the time and effort to change out of your work clothes. Change your thinking from work to fun and you're sure to have a blast. This is a time for fun and most people have a hard enough time getting out of the work mode anyway. A little insurance that you'll arrive in a good mood is great.
II) Gym gear. There's just no room for this laid back style on a date. One guy knew his date didn't put much strategy or effort into her outfit for their date. What were the tale tell signs of this? It really wasn't difficult to determine how he got the impression that she wasn't that into the date. She showed up with grungy gym clothes and wet hair. The date would rather have her show up late looking fantastic rather than on time and looking shabby. Show your date you're happy, fun, and confident by the way you dress. And so, if you've got it- flaunt it; in a sizzling way.
3) Listen With Your Body: There is nothing more boring on a date than when you're sharing something you believe to be exciting but your date, while a great listener, is sitting there practically looking comatose- totally void of expression. It's really hard to refrain from hopping across the table to.......uhhh..... check if they're awake. If you're the listener, lean your body into the direction of your date (no touching unless you want) and create a zone with your body that is both alert and welcoming. It's really quite effective to lean your body towards your date while listening. This will put them at ease as they talk to you and even create some good chemistry.
Listening with your body means moving your whole being closer to your date and showing that you are really captivated by the conversation. This shows your date that you're paying attention. Try engaging yourself by shaking your head slightly as you listen. Why not make your dates sizzle each and every time? We don't always recognize what signal our behavior is sending. Some singles don't know the proper things to do. They make huge mistakes just because they really don't know any better. Your future soul mate could be totally turned off by such behavior. Try saying what you mean no matter how difficult. The best way to make sure someone knows how you feel is to show them. If you can't say it - show it.
4) Express Yourself: When you communicate be as expressive as possible. Romance and Italians are synonymous for what reason? Because they're very expressive - making gestures to show how they feel- no one can mistake that for disinterest. Italians, being extremely animated, will also express to you if they're not 'feeling' you.
One guy, after what turned out to definitely be a sizzling date, said of his date, 'If I could've been 100% sure that she was interested in me I would've asked her out again on a second date. He kept the vision of her face in his mind and she embraced the imprint from his body when they hugged goodbye. I know her mind might have begun to wonder if he was really that into her. To think that the two never had the opportunity to express how they felt is really unfortunate. If in doubt about how to conduct yourself on your first date- just express yourself.
5) Sell Yourself: We are all salespeople at one time or another in our lifetimes. The act of selling ourselves is truly an art for some.
Here are some simple examples of ways in which you sell yourself:
* You sell yourself to your prospective employer
* You sell yourself to your college or university of choice
* When purchasing a condo, you sell yourself to the condo association of the apt you want to buy
Now, to sell yourself on your first date means you want to present yourself in the best light- the best way possible. The question. What are you marketing? Are you selling a reserved and intelligent you? Or is this the marketing of a sensuous, sexy you? Whatever you decide - go for the gusto. One change in your dating decor can make the difference in a sale that may impact the rest of your. You may be selling yourself as the hottest real estate in the area.
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Cathy Bishop is the Dating Coach to busy professionals. She offers individual sessions in person, by phone, or online.
Find out if a coaching program may be just the right thing you need to jump start your new year.
For more tips on dating or to get your Free Personalized 2010 Dating Strategy contact Cathy Bishop today.
Find out if a coaching program may be just the right thing you need to jump start your new year.
For more tips on dating or to get your Free Personalized 2010 Dating Strategy contact Cathy Bishop today.
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